My mother’s side of the family met up in Savannah, Georgia over the weekend to celebrate Thanksgiving and my grandmother’s 90th birthday. The gathering took my grandmother by surprise. As more people arrived, she started crying, happily.
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I had a roommate (the most disgusting and inconsiderate person I ever lived with, but that’s a different story), who got into the habit of watching religious programming. One night, the preacher was discussing homosexuality, loudly offering theories as to why folks are homosexual, citing things like the prenatal hormones theory while condemning it.
I can neither confirm nor deny the science behind these studies, but I’d venture to say that the preacher was using any info he had to further his cause against homosexuality, without citing evidence to the contrary or other theories that could be true.
And why would he? Likely influenced by selective biblical passages, he took the logical next step of embracing theories as to ‘what went wrong.’ Telling him otherwise would virtually be pointless because it doesn’t fit the ending that he’s believes, so he’d simply dismiss you as the opposition, who carries no credibility.
Put a controversial stance on the table, one that you are either for or against in its extreme. Now ask yourself: Is there even a single point against your view that is valid? If the answer is no, then congrats, you’re really no different than the preacher.
(Perhaps there are some exceptions. Despite thousands of years of slavery, I can’t think of a single ‘pro’ that its supporters can make that is worthy of consideration. But slavery is no longer a divisive issue so let’s just say times have changed for the better.)
I can think of four reasons why someone would be against gay marriage or even the general acceptance of homosexual people. One is that they’re motivated by religion, and selective religious passages, as per the example above. Another is blatant hatred, the same way someone would hate an entire race of people or a religion. The third is misinformation, which I believe is most likely to happen to younger folks who draw conclusions based on what they hear from their peers (people tend to grow out of this). The last reason is that some folks seem to be staunchly motivated by the dictionary (perhaps in conjunction with religious reasons), which defines marriage as being between a man and a woman. Hate to break it to folks, but dictionary definitions change over time. Somehow faggot went from being a twig to a gay slur.
Those who are opposed to gay marriage based solely on the hatred of homosexuals may just be angry, bitter people and not easy to reason with. Those who oppose it based on religious beliefs certainly won’t be convinced otherwise by opposing protesters. Those who are grasping their dictionaries, refusing to let it be changed, should focus their attention on more important things.
Never mind that many Americans are smart enough to weigh the pros and cons of issues, understanding drawbacks of certain plans while still embracing them. This is about believing in something in its extreme. The legality of gay marriage can’t possibly be intrusive in their lives, and I have yet to hear a single logical argument against it. Yet there they are, fighting it, the same way people fought against the civil rights movement.
Like with slavery supporters or ‘separate but equal’ enthusiasts, the opponents of gay marriage will shrink over time, and future generations will look back in disbelief that so many people opposed it to begin with. But there will always be opposition, and those people will continue to fight their losing battle, or at least believe they’re right… and no argument can be made that will convince them otherwise.
Many people undergo a sort of beatification after their death, as negative things are forgotten and all the wonderful things they’ve accomplished are highlighted. Then there are those who leave legacies that will be remembered for decades, if not centuries later. I’d venture to say that in the world of film, director Alfred Hitchcock is one of those people. Though he died 32 years ago, long before I saw classic films like Psycho, Rear Window, or North by Northwest, he quickly became my favorite director after experiencing the Hitchcock exhibit at Universal Studios in the early ’90s, and being treated to reruns of Alfred Hitchcock Presents on Nick-at-Night.
Hitchcock wasn’t just a film director, he was a larger than life entertainer. How many directors these days can insert their name in a title to increase interest? Imagine… Michael Bay Presents, The John Woo Hour, M. Night Shyamalan’s The Village (oh, wait, that actually happened). Hitchcock, the Master of Suspense, is still in a class by himself when it comes to the art of making movies, and every decent director these days owes him a debt of gratitude.
HBO just released a film called The Girl, based on the book Spellbound by Beauty about Hitchcock’s relationship with actress Tippi Hedren during the filming of The Birds and Marnie. They cast Toby Jones as Hitchcock, someone who makes Norman Bates in a dress look sane. Then they turned him into a sexual predator who torments Hedren on set.
How much truth there is to The Girl is something I don’t want to know. Surely, few films based on “true” stories are 100% accurate, as it’s virtually impossible to write a script like this without exaggeration. I can’t imagine Hitchcock was perfect (not that I’d ever really thought of it), but to see him painted in this light a half-century after it happened leaves me scratching my head. What’s the purpose of coming out now and making this movie? Imagine a film about Bill Clinton’s relationship with Gennifer Flowers, with someone like Steve Buscemi starring as the former president, that comes out after Clinton’s death. Anyone wonder how that will turn out?
HBO’s The Girl didn’t change my opinion of Hitchcock as a director and entertainer, but upon watching it, I was reminded that neither he nor anyone is a complete saint in life. Perhaps it’s the idea that one’s legacy must be protected after death, and only positive things must be said. So we’ll leave it to the upcoming film Hitchcock starring Anthony Hopkins to get the taste of The Girl out of our mouths.
During an election year, people more frequently voice their opinions, particularly using social networks like Facebook. While freedom of speech is a good thing, those who take advantage also expose themselves to the drawbacks. If politicians used the same wording as random folks on the Internet, or even professional writers who get paid to create controversy, it would be career suicide.
I’m not sure if these people understand or care that the arguments they make are often obnoxious and riddled with logical fallacies. They thrive in setting up straw men and burning them down. They act as though they’re irrefutably right. Meanwhile, those who are exposed to these opinions and happen to disagree (or simply find flaws in the logic) have their own choice to make… ignore them, argue with them, end the friendship, etc. One thing is for certain – someone who suddenly starts voicing controversial opinions will change how people perceive them, whether they care or not, for better or worse.
The opinions typically come from either the extreme left or the extreme right. Moderates and sensible people who understand that even their own opinions have valid counter arguments don’t make as much noise. This isn’t to say that those on either side aren’t making valid points, but it’s often the case that they’re being obnoxious and withholding facts that deserve a mention. None of this is new in the world of debates and arguing, it’s just more apparent since the Internet has given more people a virtual megaphone.
One of the most infuriating things to me is listening to people who have a complete misunderstanding, or unwillingness to understand, the opposition’s position. This isn’t to say that the opposition can’t be completely illogical too, but those who refuse to even try to understand how others can think differently – and then judge them for it – have no credibility themselves. If you’re going to disagree with someone, disagree for the right reasons, a direct rebuttal of their argument, not a misrepresentation of what they believe.
My advice: If you insist on loudly voicing your opinions on controversial issues, but refuse to try to understand the opposition’s reasoning and instead fill in the gaps with your own unfounded claims, at least be self aware enough to realize that others will notice and in return, judge you for that.
Sometimes, simple quotes or proverbs make for the best foundations for political positions. I’ll leave you with two of my favorites. If you agree with them, see if they really do sync up with your opinions on the election or life in general.
“Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.”
– Chinese Proverb
“Ask not what your country can do for you – ask what you can do for your country.”
– John F. Kennedy
I went to one of my favorite places, the Maryland Renaissance Festival on Labor Day weekend. This year they hada snake exhibit, where I got my photo with a Burmese python.
